We have been looking at tips to a happy marriage from Proverbs 5:15-23and the importance of ‘Purpose’, ‘Privacy’, ‘Priority’ and ‘Purity’. The final key which we derive from verse 23 is Prayer. It suggests that it is a destructive folly to lack discipline. God needs to be involved in our lives if we are to have the maximum ability to live a disciplined life. As said previously, too, if God created us and marriage and sex, then He not only gets a say in how to make it work best, but He gets the devotion too!
Prayer should not be a discipline when it is about enjoying relationship and conversation with God, but that’s not the point here. It’s that we need discipline to live differently and change bad habits that can undermine marriage. Prayer helps with that. Mind you, it often takes discipline to develop a habit of prayer too.
For couples who are Christians, sharing faith together and praying with each other regarding marriage and the events of everyday life seems like such a challenge. But you bring the best out of each other when you have an attitude that wants to see the best in each other. And if you, your spouse and God are at the three points of the marriage triangle, then you grow closer to God when you grow closer to each other (and vice versa) (and remember that a threefold cord is not easily broken according to Ecclesiastes 4:12).
Accountability for personal prayer, handling temptation and managing our inner world is part of praying together, but simply praying with each other and sharing insights gleaned from reading the Bible and what these mean for your marriage is also vital. It has rightly been said that, “The family that prays together stays together.” I’d also say that it is hard to be in conflict with someone when you are praying with them. Someone has to make the first move, so it may as well be you!
I hope that these five keys from Proverbs 5 have triggered some helpful application for you. Purpose, Privacy, Priority, Purity and Prayer are sure-fire tips for not only affair-proofing your marriage, but for making it the marriage it was designed to be.
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