More on Curbing and Curing Porn Addiction

As I said a few days ago, there is a clear moral problem in encouraging the pornography industry to continue exploiting people (mostly women) with every example of use. No pornography is free, because whether the consumer pays or sponsors pay, even a single mouse click for porn effectively sends a message saying, “I support this practice.”

Couples have sometimes resorted to pornography to ‘spice up their love life’. This might take the form of watching R-rated (or even MA-rated) videos which are significantly focused on sex and contain nudity, let alone focusing on what might be available on the internet. Even if, say, a wife agrees to this, is her husband going to be able to stop at just watching it with her? Men are especially visually stimulated and the likelihood is, firstly, that he’ll get drawn into wanting to watch even when she’s not around, secondly, that he’ll need more and more exposure to pornography to be stimulated and, thirdly, that the husband might lazily become a less romantic pursuer and lover of his wife. Again, the couple are giving licence to pornographic subjects to remove their clothes for the voyeurism of others, photographers and editors to watch and be drawn into their own problems with porn, and everyone connected with the industry to become afflicted or affluent as a result.

Singles who suggest that they should be entitled to use pornography to be able to have a sexual experience that they cannot get with a partner are likewise deceived IMHO. The conditioning of the brain to respond to images will deaden the sexual response in an eventual relationship. The supposed satisfaction that porn gives will be artificial because it is based upon fantasy which then gets projected on to real people as I said on Tuesday. Again, users support the industry by virtue of their very usage of porn.

I could go on. But the problem is very real and very pervasive. It’s time to reclaim our innocence and to be proud of it! Who is missing out on life by staying innocent? Don’t buy the lie. Even the subtlety of TV sitcoms with their innuendo and overt sexualisation of society are deceptive, but the world wide web of porn has taken it to new levels over the last decade. Many people who have been caught in porn, even married people, have said that it has not ultimately helped them, but only caused harm. They wish that they could reclaim their innocence, get the images out of their mind, reset their brain and be pure again. Best advice – don’t get hooked. Next best advice – get help.

For those addicted and willing to change, I mentioned the need for accountability. Some blocking software can help, but the X3 Watch and Safe Eyes software for parents and for PC/Mac users has built in accountability measures. Check out the website of the provocatively named anti-pornography site XXX Church http://xxxchurch.com/ and their 30 Days to Purity courses for single guys, single girls or married men at http://www.x3pure.com/. There are ways around these and the sites are not perfect, but for somebody committed to change, these can be a useful tool.

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